Sunday, June 12, 2011

First week in school

Yes, the day finally came when Akshaj went to school.We didn't send him to playschool and I think he was the only one in our apartment complex of his age who was not going anywhere.We had to dodge many questions from everybody for why we are not sending, even our building's security guard asked Akshaj's grandpa why does not he go school !!Well in the starting we just thought he was not ready and later when he thought we can try most of the playschool were almost closing for summer break.So finally playschool was off our list and we decided to put him in school straightaway.He did got admission to a good big school but then we decided to send him to a small Montessori instead.So last week was his first week of school.We were fairly confident that he would happily go to school since he sees all his friends going ,only problem was the timing as he is in morning batch which starts 9 which is not even his waking up time.But since I was preparing since a long time that he has to get up and go to school so this  is what finally happened in first week:

Day 1:I told him to get up to go to school and he very happily woke up saying "Mama school open ho gaya.sunlight aa gaye" .And  I started thinking wow it looks easy !!But putting him to bath and getting him out was tough task but after lots crying and cajoling it was managed somehow.He was really very happy about putting his bag and bottle and he put it on at home only and went like that in car to school.Finally we reached school.He said goodbye and didn't cry while going in.This school does not allow parents to go in with the kids even for one day. Barring one time he has never gone anywhere without us but still I was not worried about it since I knew he would not cry but would have loved to see his activities on the first day.Since he is new student he has to go only for 1 hour in the starting and he came out quite happily with his shy smile.

Day 2: More crying followed when we tried to wake him up .But he went in quite happily.But while coming out he was really crying a lot.On top of it I had not told him that only I will be coming to pick him up and Puneet will not come so he was all sad sad.He kept crying and asking where is papa .This was his actual worry.

Akshaj:Mama .Where's papa again and again and again
Me :Papa went to office -again and again
Akshaj:(what was actually worrying him) Fir Aku our mama ghar kaise jayenge
Me:Hum auto se jayenge
Akshaj:Oh auto se and he takes the matter in his hands and forgets about crying and spots the first auto and starts shouting 'Auto auto"

I later ask him why he was sad and crying did anybody say anything but he said no but he didn't tell the reason also.He still does not say much what all happens in school and replies only in one word after much coxing.I was still thinking about his reasons for crying as somehow I didn't think his missing either one of us could be the reason.Later when I opened his lunchbox I saw that it was wet ,I figured he might have poured water from bottle to his lunch box and somebody might have stopped him ,that's why he was crying.But he was quite happy coming back and kept singing some rhyme he had sung in his school that day

Day 3:There  was a slight hitch in going to school when we said goodbye but he went without crying.He didn't eat his lunchbox that day.

Day 4:This was very tough day .He was little unwell with slight cold but we though he could still go to school.But the moment he woke up he started crying "Aku school nahi jayega".."No school"...it was really very heartbreaking and we keep on thinking what should we do .Then we thought since its only 1 hour we will take him and see what happens.We actually tricked him by saying we are going somewhere else then only he came in car.In car only I changed his clothes and told him we are going to school.He started crying again but thank god I had packed his favorite chocos in his lunchbox.So he had that and with a promise of 'nariyal pani' he went to school still crying inconsolably.But he stopped crying the moment he saw the kids.He was crying so much that Puneet also stayed back to pick him up.We talked to the principal also and she said he is adjusting quite well and we can extend his school hours from next week.Only trouble was he saw us talking to the principal and he was still in his school.he started crying again 'Meri mummy meri mummy'.Thankfully his school timings got over and he came out happy happy.We asked him is he sad or happy (which is one of his favorite thing to ask these days).and he said he is happy.We were quite relieved hearing this and felt less guilty for sending him off.

Day 5:After a sparkling performance we slipped and reached half an hour late to his school :-(.And then Akshaj in half crying voice kept repeating 'Mama bahar main wait karegi" again again  till he went inside his school compound

So all in all he did well for first week of his school.