Soiyee
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After doing something which he obviously knows he is not supposed to do
Akku:Mama Soiyeee
Mama :No reaction showing angry face
Akku:Mama Soiyeee
Mama :No reaction
Akku:Mama OK ,Mama OK
Mama:Left wondering was not she supposed to say OK to be it really OK.
Thankyou-Welcome
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Mama gave Akku one jelly just coming back from office
Akku :(depending on his mood)Mama Thanku
Mama:(Maybe busy with something takes a sec too late in reply).....
Akku:Mama Welcome
Mama:Feeling little guilty for not replying quickly..
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In bathroom while making him do brushing...after brush instead of spitting water out he gulps it in...so I would keep saying 'Very good' if he does it properly ..but as humans sometimes I forget to say so :
Mama:OK akku kulla karo
Akku:(does spit it out ) Very Good (to himself)
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One another things he is doing these days is touching everybody's feet and saying 'jaiii' he loves it when we says 'khoob bade' after it (off course sometimes we are offgaurd when he touches feet ..we will be wondering what he is doing , he just touches feet and says 'khoob bade' himself)
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Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Mama Sorry
Yesterday I was working in kitchen when Akku came and asked 'Akku paani de do'(give me water)..as I knew he was just asking it just to create a mess I said no to him so he started .."mama soiiyee mama soiiyee" ..I could not understand why he was saying sorry for few seconds and then I went in flashback and remembered the incident which happened 45 minutes back:
These days we take him to bathroom for toilet ....his self created incentive of saving us from the mess in the house is that he will do toilet in bathroom then put water before he comes out ..off lately he has changed it little more ..he will play with water in bucket a little after toilet, before he puts water over his toilet then he will wipe it using wiper again and again till my patience runs out.Yesterday he refused to come out and I had to pick him up and bring him out which let to me being subjected to his volley of slaps ..combined with his crying..I had some other work to do and was not in mood to entertain his tantrum so gave him a scolding ..his grandma was there to make him stop crying to whom he happily went..so I went away and forgot about this whole drama...
So cut back to present he started this whole 'mama soiiyee' thing ...he said it exactly 4 times before switching back to 'pani de do' ...and by the way he did not come back to me this whole time to say sorry before he realized that I was in the kitchen so he had to ask water from me
I really wonder who said that kids are innocent !!
P.S:In case something like this happens with Puneet ,Akku says sorry within a second of the incident.He has already started me taken for granted :-(
These days we take him to bathroom for toilet ....his self created incentive of saving us from the mess in the house is that he will do toilet in bathroom then put water before he comes out ..off lately he has changed it little more ..he will play with water in bucket a little after toilet, before he puts water over his toilet then he will wipe it using wiper again and again till my patience runs out.Yesterday he refused to come out and I had to pick him up and bring him out which let to me being subjected to his volley of slaps ..combined with his crying..I had some other work to do and was not in mood to entertain his tantrum so gave him a scolding ..his grandma was there to make him stop crying to whom he happily went..so I went away and forgot about this whole drama...
So cut back to present he started this whole 'mama soiiyee' thing ...he said it exactly 4 times before switching back to 'pani de do' ...and by the way he did not come back to me this whole time to say sorry before he realized that I was in the kitchen so he had to ask water from me
I really wonder who said that kids are innocent !!
P.S:In case something like this happens with Puneet ,Akku says sorry within a second of the incident.He has already started me taken for granted :-(
Thursday, October 21, 2010
book ! book !
We were all set to go for shopping ..
me :Akku come we are going out
Akku:(Instead of running to door like he usually do) Book ! Book !
We all were just staring at him what he means by that when he ran to drawer where his books are kept and picks 1 of the books and comes running back ...saying "Chalo Chalo"
And he has doing this rather consistently....he doesn't just carries but goes though it as well when he is traveling only with his papa in car.
I guess he noticed me carrying a book while I leave for office and has followed suit :-)
me :Akku come we are going out
Akku:(Instead of running to door like he usually do) Book ! Book !
We all were just staring at him what he means by that when he ran to drawer where his books are kept and picks 1 of the books and comes running back ...saying "Chalo Chalo"
And he has doing this rather consistently....he doesn't just carries but goes though it as well when he is traveling only with his papa in car.
I guess he noticed me carrying a book while I leave for office and has followed suit :-)
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Happy Birthday -II and III
Birthday has long gone but still its never too late to update :-)
2nd Birthday was janamvaar as per the Hindu calender..there was a pooja followed by lunch to panditji.Akshaj first had 'haldi' applied on him followed by bath and then pooja.
Then came the birthday bash...
2nd Birthday was janamvaar as per the Hindu calender..there was a pooja followed by lunch to panditji.Akshaj first had 'haldi' applied on him followed by bath and then pooja.
Then came the birthday bash...
I prepared 'Happy Birthday' banner modifying the last year's but it was still a lot of effort.I could only do it from 12 to 2.20 at night since before that there was no time..it took 3-4 days for this to complete ..I also made some stars from leftover wrapping paper as Akshaj loves them a lot ..
And Akku thourghly enjoyed his birthday ...he didn't sleep for whole day ...he was totally charged up for his birthday bash..kept on singing 'happy ..to you"
He danced a lot ..ran a lot and had loads of fun..
We couldn't take many photos this year as we were busy with all the kids ...
He danced a lot ..ran a lot and had loads of fun..
We couldn't take many photos this year as we were busy with all the kids ...
Monday, August 9, 2010
The year that it was...
What a year this year turned out to be ,,,this year saw the transformation of easily mouldable baby(except last few months of first year) to a super-active-not to be fooled complete brat.It was a totally a exhausting, totally entertaining ride which has left all of us wanting for more..
In his first year Akshaj was very sweet, he would go to anybody, not at all clingy and he will happily play on his own.His growing up has transformed him into sometimes super clingy,many times very difficult to handle 2 year old. But what makes him even more likeabale now is actually is his totally bratiness combined with total innocence at times.
Second year started with his finally walking with his two feet after lots of discussions over when will he start to walk.And with last barrier of his dependency w.r.t movement over ..there was no stopping him ...he was everywhere ..from dining tables...to drawers ,cupboards ..we suddenly found us with no place safe enough to keep important things away it away from him.This off course led us to reaching home to know that we have one less piece of house hold item with us.
This year also made us realize how tough parenting can be as apart from his regular bouts of cold and fever which made us try allopathy,homeopathy and aurveda ,we had to hear that he might have to start wearing spects soon and had to take him to speech therapy.Which essetially means we have to keep monitoring him for any signs of his poor vision and further delays in speaking.Analyzing your own child is the most tough task to do. And maybe he knows how confused his parents are ..as he keeps us guessing on his progress always.Some things he will do will amaze us but other things will get us worried.
The words which came out after so much effort became so much more sweet ....and with starting of words being him opened a one more chapter of parental bliss ..and like all parents we think he is blessed with the sweetest voice ...its so much fun to hear him say new word and give it twist ..like 'godi' becoming 'dogi' ,'chalo' becoming 'shalo' and the likes..
He progessed well and learnt to argue very well with his one words.
He has grown up but still continues to be a baby.He will say 'chodo' or even ask to leave the room with 'jaoo' or a 'bye' but after sometime he would ask us to take him in 'godi' and loves to be hugged and kissed and be made fussed about.
This year has also been about realizing what being a mother is all about .Its about being loved in a way like never before.Like when its only me who can make his crying stop as he will just be held by me ,when he searches for me saying 'mummy mummy' in the house,when he comes to me with a half torn nail and goes back to what he was doing once nail is taken care.
It has been one great year !!
Some tidbits of 'AkkuSpeaks':
Generally I give him one jelly after coming from office ..but the jelly was over so couldn't give him ..
So the coversation went:
Akshaj:Jelly:
Me:Over
Akshaj:Toffee
Me:Thakham (he says 'khatam' opposite)
Akshaj:Choco
Me:Over
Akshaj:Keela(banana),namkeen ..etc etc ..(i really had to run away from the room to get something quickly for him)
One of my cousin had come to visit us .When she was leaving she says:
Cousin:OK Akku,bye ,I am leaving ,miss me
Akku:Ok Chalo,my sandals ,shoes and brings them.
In his first year Akshaj was very sweet, he would go to anybody, not at all clingy and he will happily play on his own.His growing up has transformed him into sometimes super clingy,many times very difficult to handle 2 year old. But what makes him even more likeabale now is actually is his totally bratiness combined with total innocence at times.
Second year started with his finally walking with his two feet after lots of discussions over when will he start to walk.And with last barrier of his dependency w.r.t movement over ..there was no stopping him ...he was everywhere ..from dining tables...to drawers ,cupboards ..we suddenly found us with no place safe enough to keep important things away it away from him.This off course led us to reaching home to know that we have one less piece of house hold item with us.
This year also made us realize how tough parenting can be as apart from his regular bouts of cold and fever which made us try allopathy,homeopathy and aurveda ,we had to hear that he might have to start wearing spects soon and had to take him to speech therapy.Which essetially means we have to keep monitoring him for any signs of his poor vision and further delays in speaking.Analyzing your own child is the most tough task to do. And maybe he knows how confused his parents are ..as he keeps us guessing on his progress always.Some things he will do will amaze us but other things will get us worried.
The words which came out after so much effort became so much more sweet ....and with starting of words being him opened a one more chapter of parental bliss ..and like all parents we think he is blessed with the sweetest voice ...its so much fun to hear him say new word and give it twist ..like 'godi' becoming 'dogi' ,'chalo' becoming 'shalo' and the likes..
He progessed well and learnt to argue very well with his one words.
He has grown up but still continues to be a baby.He will say 'chodo' or even ask to leave the room with 'jaoo' or a 'bye' but after sometime he would ask us to take him in 'godi' and loves to be hugged and kissed and be made fussed about.
This year has also been about realizing what being a mother is all about .Its about being loved in a way like never before.Like when its only me who can make his crying stop as he will just be held by me ,when he searches for me saying 'mummy mummy' in the house,when he comes to me with a half torn nail and goes back to what he was doing once nail is taken care.
It has been one great year !!
Some tidbits of 'AkkuSpeaks':
Generally I give him one jelly after coming from office ..but the jelly was over so couldn't give him ..
So the coversation went:
Akshaj:Jelly:
Me:Over
Akshaj:Toffee
Me:Thakham (he says 'khatam' opposite)
Akshaj:Choco
Me:Over
Akshaj:Keela(banana),namkeen ..etc etc ..(i really had to run away from the room to get something quickly for him)
One of my cousin had come to visit us .When she was leaving she says:
Cousin:OK Akku,bye ,I am leaving ,miss me
Akku:Ok Chalo,my sandals ,shoes and brings them.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Happy Birthday I
Celebration time has started in Boy Wonder's house.Akshaj turned 2 on 26th July.As he was awake till 12'o clock to celebrate his birthday he cut the cake(Actually leftovers of the cake I was making)in night ..seeing the joy on his face as he was saying 'Happy Happy' again and again was truly something to cherish
This time I attempted to make a zebra car cake with the little time I got ..cake turned out to be Ok but the birthday boy was was very happy with it ...it was quite tough to keep him away from it till it was cut ..and he was happily clapping and singing 'happy to you'(he cannot say birthday)
With cake cutting over it was time to march out Pretty indecisive family that we are ...we had decided to go to a theme park but instead we went to Lumbini Gardens..a lake with some toy rides etc placed for the kids..It was quite enjoyable and Bangalore weather made sure that we have a lovely day ...
He sat in different rides and his favorite chai shai(toy train).we were skeptical of putting him alone in toy train at first ,even he was a little scared but with all of us around him he became confident and enjoyed his first train journey a lot..
As his confidence grew so did ours so much so that we took him in 'Colombus' with us that too in last seat...actually only I had sat in that before that too a very long time ago so I didn't remember that it goes very high ..but we got a reality check pretty quick and asked it to be stopped.Poor Akshaj was just saying 'chalo chalo' when it finally stopped.But after sometime when we asked him how it was he said 'accha hai'...
It was just a perfect birthday ...since his grandmom was out of station his birthday party is postponed ..and that's why this post is titled 'Happy Birthday 1'..he is going to have 3 birthdays this time...2nd will be his 'janamvar' according to hindu calender and third will be a party with all family and friends sponsored by his grandparents.Talk about spoiling him !!
This time I attempted to make a zebra car cake with the little time I got ..cake turned out to be Ok but the birthday boy was was very happy with it ...it was quite tough to keep him away from it till it was cut ..and he was happily clapping and singing 'happy to you'(he cannot say birthday)
With cake cutting over it was time to march out Pretty indecisive family that we are ...we had decided to go to a theme park but instead we went to Lumbini Gardens..a lake with some toy rides etc placed for the kids..It was quite enjoyable and Bangalore weather made sure that we have a lovely day ...
He sat in different rides and his favorite chai shai(toy train).we were skeptical of putting him alone in toy train at first ,even he was a little scared but with all of us around him he became confident and enjoyed his first train journey a lot..
As his confidence grew so did ours so much so that we took him in 'Colombus' with us that too in last seat...actually only I had sat in that before that too a very long time ago so I didn't remember that it goes very high ..but we got a reality check pretty quick and asked it to be stopped.Poor Akshaj was just saying 'chalo chalo' when it finally stopped.But after sometime when we asked him how it was he said 'accha hai'...
It was just a perfect birthday ...since his grandmom was out of station his birthday party is postponed ..and that's why this post is titled 'Happy Birthday 1'..he is going to have 3 birthdays this time...2nd will be his 'janamvar' according to hindu calender and third will be a party with all family and friends sponsored by his grandparents.Talk about spoiling him !!
Thursday, July 29, 2010
pitti
'Pitti' (beating ) is the most loved word of Akshaj these days ...
He not just hits but also says 'pitti' while beating ..
and there is no kind of bais while giving his share of ' pitti' ---he gives it equally to us,his toys,sofa,bed ,door ..anything which/who does not work according to his will..
And stupidly I thought I can have some respite when he is sleeping ..but no ..picture this ...
One fine morning as usual I was sleeping next to him...
Pat came his slap to (as luck would have it) my face
I looked at him still sleeping ...
say what you can do in this situation ??
After 5 minutes he woke up and said 'meetu ro rahi hai'(meetu is a girl his age living next door)
It was easy to undertstand his dream ..in his dream he was beating meetu and she was crying..
All I wanted to say him at that time was not meetu but it was me who should actually cry !!
His 'pitti' thing is becoming really difficult to handle ...generally we will ask him to say sorry ..which he would do but after some time he will again hit ..
If we scold him he cries a lot and we know he is scared as he would do no. 1.
If we try to make him understand that he should not do this ..people get hurt ...he will start slapping himself ....
Now if he is with other kids I am very scared as to what he will do ...he has a very short temper..he just wants his thing to done the way he wants and that too pretty quickly..otherwise all tantrums start ..
He not just hits but also says 'pitti' while beating ..
and there is no kind of bais while giving his share of ' pitti' ---he gives it equally to us,his toys,sofa,bed ,door ..anything which/who does not work according to his will..
And stupidly I thought I can have some respite when he is sleeping ..but no ..picture this ...
One fine morning as usual I was sleeping next to him...
Pat came his slap to (as luck would have it) my face
I looked at him still sleeping ...
say what you can do in this situation ??
After 5 minutes he woke up and said 'meetu ro rahi hai'(meetu is a girl his age living next door)
It was easy to undertstand his dream ..in his dream he was beating meetu and she was crying..
All I wanted to say him at that time was not meetu but it was me who should actually cry !!
His 'pitti' thing is becoming really difficult to handle ...generally we will ask him to say sorry ..which he would do but after some time he will again hit ..
If we scold him he cries a lot and we know he is scared as he would do no. 1.
If we try to make him understand that he should not do this ..people get hurt ...he will start slapping himself ....
Now if he is with other kids I am very scared as to what he will do ...he has a very short temper..he just wants his thing to done the way he wants and that too pretty quickly..otherwise all tantrums start ..
Thursday, July 1, 2010
My Sins Against Gender Stereotypes
Passed to me my Deeps..this tag is surely spreading like wild fire ...and considering how common the answers are I would say most of these no longer qualify in 'man's world' category anymore ...
Well this is the manly side of me :
1.I generally do not cry.I guess I am more practical than emotional.I didn't even cry when my bitch died which was strange for even my parents as she was centre of my life at that time..I really miss her even but didn't cry at that time.
2.I love watching horror shows/action movies.I used to watch 'Zee horror show'(which was only horror show at that time') at 12 'o clock at night all alone with lights switched off .And I just loved telling horror stories to my friends and totally freaking them out.Sadly Puneet does not share my passion for horror flicks so I had to sacrifice my 'horror' passion for domesticity
3. I am the cockrock slayer,insect slayer of the house.
4.I do not do bargaining though I love getting them done by Puneet.He is great at it .He definitely has to follow me on all my bargain shopping places.
5. I do not talk to my maids to get a update on what's happening in neighbour's house.And generally also I am not a talkative person.
6.This one is coming as a topper in so many list.Though I love jewelery but I don't like wearing it.I only wear my ear-rings and my ring for daily use.Same goes for make-up or rather lack of it.
7.I have watched cricket matches right in the middle of my board exams and watching soccer was a ritual when I was small.We all used to go to my mama's place when we were kids and there all the kids(all my mausi used to come to mama's house during vacation time ) used to watch soccer matches with jam filled Parle G biscuits (dripped in milk and freezed).Sadly as went out of house to study I could no longer follow it that much.But trying to see them this time around with little time I have.As for cricket ,I get very angry when I hear comments like 'we don't understand why men watch cricket so much' ..well if women in general can't like without shopping or having daily dose of soap operas why men(or women) can't have their share of cricket.
8. I do all the photo/clicking/,uploading photo/video,Internet searches,laptop/PC troubleshooting,CD cutting in my house.
9.I have asked Puneet to skip traffic light .i.e when we are coming late at night and all streets are empty.
10. I have disappeared in middle of my office to watch movies and return back later.And have bunked college as well.
There that's it ..Confession to all my sins!!
Well this is the manly side of me :
1.I generally do not cry.I guess I am more practical than emotional.I didn't even cry when my bitch died which was strange for even my parents as she was centre of my life at that time..I really miss her even but didn't cry at that time.
2.I love watching horror shows/action movies.I used to watch 'Zee horror show'(which was only horror show at that time') at 12 'o clock at night all alone with lights switched off .And I just loved telling horror stories to my friends and totally freaking them out.Sadly Puneet does not share my passion for horror flicks so I had to sacrifice my 'horror' passion for domesticity
3. I am the cockrock slayer,insect slayer of the house.
4.I do not do bargaining though I love getting them done by Puneet.He is great at it .He definitely has to follow me on all my bargain shopping places.
5. I do not talk to my maids to get a update on what's happening in neighbour's house.And generally also I am not a talkative person.
6.This one is coming as a topper in so many list.Though I love jewelery but I don't like wearing it.I only wear my ear-rings and my ring for daily use.Same goes for make-up or rather lack of it.
7.I have watched cricket matches right in the middle of my board exams and watching soccer was a ritual when I was small.We all used to go to my mama's place when we were kids and there all the kids(all my mausi used to come to mama's house during vacation time ) used to watch soccer matches with jam filled Parle G biscuits (dripped in milk and freezed).Sadly as went out of house to study I could no longer follow it that much.But trying to see them this time around with little time I have.As for cricket ,I get very angry when I hear comments like 'we don't understand why men watch cricket so much' ..well if women in general can't like without shopping or having daily dose of soap operas why men(or women) can't have their share of cricket.
8. I do all the photo/clicking/,uploading photo/video,Internet searches,laptop/PC troubleshooting,CD cutting in my house.
9.I have asked Puneet to skip traffic light .i.e when we are coming late at night and all streets are empty.
10. I have disappeared in middle of my office to watch movies and return back later.And have bunked college as well.
There that's it ..Confession to all my sins!!
Friday, June 25, 2010
Mommy Guilt
Mommy Guilt:Just the topic makes my head nod in agreement and make me go in a pensive mode।And I could place a bet that almost all the mommy's in the world would do the same for it!!
Last Monday I had a dream
"My son Akshaj was there and my in-laws (who stay with us to take care of him) and maybe maybe not my husband was also in it..I am not sure where was I but there ,somewhere lurking in the background..And I heard my mom-in-law say to somebody ...that his(Akshaj's) mom is no longer there with us ... and there was I even in my dream listening to this ..it was not that anybody was crying or unhappy ..just it was a matter of fact "
I can say I have never felt such a profound mommy guilt or rather any kind of guilt ever close to this .. why you may ask so ??
Well it so happened a day before I had left home for some work leaving a uncontrollably crying son behind
I have had fair share of guilty trips in my 2 years of mommyhood ..but none that I could not overcome or accept
Like when Akshaj was born prematurely in 35th week and kept in incubator ,when I had to start giving him formula in 4th month and even now when I hear from his doc that his eyesight is weak because of born premature :I can reason myself to believe that I did everything I could to take proper care of myself and did as my doc told
when he fell from bed first time or when he fell sick the first time :At first I foolishly thought I
would never let him fall again।But quickly I realized it happens and its OK.And I have come to accept my minor heart attack like moments I go through when Akshaj shoes how many different kind of stunts he can pull of with 2 year old brain of his .and numerous others like that
But this mommy guilt....seeing him cry every morning when I leave for office ..when everyday I have to break free of his hug and explain to him mummy has to go to office ..is really taking a toll on me .. what' funny is this is quite a recent change in him...earlier he never used to cry so much seeing me leaving ..
One of the main reason why I am not able to get away with this mommy guilt is that earlier whatever problem came I am sure I did what was best I could do ..but this time I am not so sure ..
I love working and can't imagine being limited to house ..this is not because I am a very career
oriented women...but just that I love my space..and love the money (howsoever less)I am getting..I have always seen my mom working ..I never had problem with that ever
But now I have started thinking am I doing the right thing by working ॥ and there are 2 reasons(although related) of why I am thinking this..which is ..
1) everybody says that first 3 years of baby's life are very important and they have a bearing on rest of their lives." Not sure if it is true but heard enough to think about it
2)I cannot read Akshaj's mind or heart for that matter to know for sure how much he is affected by it....sometimes I feel he is just OK but sometimes I or rather we all feel somewhere in his mind he is now scared of me leaving him and keeps clinging to me when I am there
So how can I judge what is right for him...still thinking. Don't know if I will be successful in overcoming this mommy's guilt which has become a part of so many working women's life !!
Have my finger's crossed and hope for the best !!
Mommy Guilt--This is my entry to "Mommy Guilt" Contest started by "womensweb"
Last Monday I had a dream
"My son Akshaj was there and my in-laws (who stay with us to take care of him) and maybe maybe not my husband was also in it..I am not sure where was I but there ,somewhere lurking in the background..And I heard my mom-in-law say to somebody ...that his(Akshaj's) mom is no longer there with us ... and there was I even in my dream listening to this ..it was not that anybody was crying or unhappy ..just it was a matter of fact "
I can say I have never felt such a profound mommy guilt or rather any kind of guilt ever close to this .. why you may ask so ??
Well it so happened a day before I had left home for some work leaving a uncontrollably crying son behind
I have had fair share of guilty trips in my 2 years of mommyhood ..but none that I could not overcome or accept
Like when Akshaj was born prematurely in 35th week and kept in incubator ,when I had to start giving him formula in 4th month and even now when I hear from his doc that his eyesight is weak because of born premature :I can reason myself to believe that I did everything I could to take proper care of myself and did as my doc told
when he fell from bed first time or when he fell sick the first time :At first I foolishly thought I
would never let him fall again।But quickly I realized it happens and its OK.And I have come to accept my minor heart attack like moments I go through when Akshaj shoes how many different kind of stunts he can pull of with 2 year old brain of his .and numerous others like that
But this mommy guilt....seeing him cry every morning when I leave for office ..when everyday I have to break free of his hug and explain to him mummy has to go to office ..is really taking a toll on me .. what' funny is this is quite a recent change in him...earlier he never used to cry so much seeing me leaving ..
One of the main reason why I am not able to get away with this mommy guilt is that earlier whatever problem came I am sure I did what was best I could do ..but this time I am not so sure ..
I love working and can't imagine being limited to house ..this is not because I am a very career
oriented women...but just that I love my space..and love the money (howsoever less)I am getting..I have always seen my mom working ..I never had problem with that ever
But now I have started thinking am I doing the right thing by working ॥ and there are 2 reasons(although related) of why I am thinking this..which is ..
1) everybody says that first 3 years of baby's life are very important and they have a bearing on rest of their lives." Not sure if it is true but heard enough to think about it
2)I cannot read Akshaj's mind or heart for that matter to know for sure how much he is affected by it....sometimes I feel he is just OK but sometimes I or rather we all feel somewhere in his mind he is now scared of me leaving him and keeps clinging to me when I am there
So how can I judge what is right for him...still thinking. Don't know if I will be successful in overcoming this mommy's guilt which has become a part of so many working women's life !!
Have my finger's crossed and hope for the best !!
Mommy Guilt--This is my entry to "Mommy Guilt" Contest started by "womensweb"
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Childhood Rhymes(Hindi/Kumaouni)
After reading so many childhood poems across various blogs, I couldn't resist writing the poems we use for sing when we were small..
For our native language rhymes(which is kumaouni) I bugged my mother to provide with translations ..
but even she does not know the meaning well..but we used to love them when we were small
and Akshaj also laughs like crazy when we sing them to him...
So these are my list I could come up with for entry in Tulika's blogathon.
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लाठी लेके हाथी आया ,छन छन छन
ढोल बजता भालू आया , धम धम धम
मैढ़क ने ली मीठी तान
ओंर ग़धे में गाया गान
Meaning:Elephant came with a stick (followed by its voice)
Bear came with a drum
Frog made a melodious sound
and donkey sang a song
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अक्कड़ बक्कड़ बम्बे बो
अस्सी नब्हे पूरे सों
सों मैं लगा तागा
च्रौर निकल ने भागा
Meaning:
Don't think it actually means anything much .
We used to play this when we were kid.
We have to one of our palm down(on table) with fingers apart from each other
Then run finger of another hand one by one over fingers of first hand.
and sing the song and finger where the song stops you have to fold that in.
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पीपी पीपी टररढम नन्हे मुन्ने बच्चे हम
Meaning:
First line doesn't mean anything
we are small small kids
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veer balak hai hum satya pe chalenge hum
apne desh ki aan par ,sar ko na jhukayehge
we are brave kids,we we always speak truth
for our country's pride,we will not put our head down
(Actually we used to sing it while climbing walls by replacing 'satya' with 'chaat')
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POEMS IN KUMAOUNI:
बाड़ा मैं कौंआ छा ,उक्कहल मैं पिनु छा
डाला मैं बहुआ छा,काबिड़ी काबिड़ी काबिड़ी
Meaning :
In between boundary there is a crow,in 'ookhali' there ??
in basket there is baby,followed by kabidi kabdi where we bring one hand(like how we do to show twinkling
star) from top to tickle the baby
*okkhali is a hole in ground which was used to grind masalas in earlier days।
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We normally do this while lying on our back with knees bend(like when we do crunches)
And keeping the baby on below knee position.
चूँ मूसी चूँ ,द्वि माना ग्यूं
घट पिसी ल्यूं,के मैं खूं,के मैं द्व्यूं
Meaning:
first line most probably addressing rat(not very sure about exact meaning)
two mann* wheat
have got them grounded from 'chakki'
what will I eat,and how much can I give.
*mann was used as a measurement standard in earlier days like now we use kgs
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घू घूती बासूती ,आमा काँ छा
मालकोते, के ल्याली,दूदू भाती
को खा लो ,----खा लो ---खा लो (fill dash with baby's name)
Meaning:
Again first line not sure
where is grandma
in हेर मतेर्नल अंकल's place,what will she bring,milk with rice
who will eat,_____will eat,____will eat (for us we say akku will eat,or u can say baby will eat)
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उद्दकुच्ची मुड्कूची ,ल्या लेएची
पीतल कैची,हथी कुट्टी
तौड ताढ़ बैल लाया
Meaning:
No idea just use to sing for the sound of it ..
ending ..came back with broken hand and feet
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Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Vadnnna................vadnnnna..............
that's how my boy shouts for me these days if he is in another room..
and 'mamma' has changed to 'mamba' somehow ..
before we can pat ourselves that he has learnt something he quickly unlearns it as well..
like 'goodi' has become 'dogi' these days....
these are quite funny excited days ...we never know what Akku will come up with next..
when Akku goes diaper free and runs out of the house like that we tell him that he should not run 'nangu'(naked) like that ..and that word has become quite a favorite with him..
Other day some Bipasha basu song was coming and Akku starts off ..'Naangu Naangu'and then it did follow up with other songs as well..
I tell u TV watching has become even more restricted now as we never know when 'Naangu' calling will start again..
And since water is the most favorite thing for him ...he can recogonise it everywhere ..In books,CD's poster,songs ..whereever he sees water he starts saying 'mum mum' or even 'water' at times.And moment he sees somebody jumping in pool(like our society pool) he goes 'nai nai'(bathing)
Other times he takes water from him bottle ..puts it in his clothes and says 'geela geela'(wet)..
One thing which I found amazing he has learnt to say is 'Hawa'(air)...If we fan him with paper or if breeze is blowing he says 'hawa' which I think is the most coolest and one of the difficult thing he has learnt to reconize so far ..
He has beginning to join some two words together and use verbs/abstract nouns as well .
whenever he wants something he just follows us everywhere which his one hand outstreched over the other and he keeps on saying 'de do ,de do'(give it) or 'le lo,le lo'(take it), till we actually give that thing to him...yest we went to temple and before we could take prasadam from purohit ..there he was his tiny tiny hands outstretched to get the prasad.
We have started his potty training ...so far nothing much is happening apart from his truely original way of doing 'shu-shu'
He refuses to sit on his potty seat ..so we actually take him in our hands and in sink he does it ...
And this is the complete procedure he follows..
1.We hold him and bring him to position before the sink.
2.he starts 'eiight eiight' (light light)..so we switch on the sink lights.
3. Then comes 'water water ' (We dutifully turn on the water)
4.'Pav tho' ..pav dho'(clean the feet) we wash one feet ..and he goes off 'dusaa' 'dusaa'(second one )
5.and followed by recently added 'haatdo' 'haatdo' ..and we clean the hands ..
6.Thankfully the times arrives for the real deal and 2/10 it results in success rest of the times it goes back again to lots of step 5/step 6 only to realize we are being duped.
and 'mamma' has changed to 'mamba' somehow ..
before we can pat ourselves that he has learnt something he quickly unlearns it as well..
like 'goodi' has become 'dogi' these days....
these are quite funny excited days ...we never know what Akku will come up with next..
when Akku goes diaper free and runs out of the house like that we tell him that he should not run 'nangu'(naked) like that ..and that word has become quite a favorite with him..
Other day some Bipasha basu song was coming and Akku starts off ..'Naangu Naangu'and then it did follow up with other songs as well..
I tell u TV watching has become even more restricted now as we never know when 'Naangu' calling will start again..
And since water is the most favorite thing for him ...he can recogonise it everywhere ..In books,CD's poster,songs ..whereever he sees water he starts saying 'mum mum' or even 'water' at times.And moment he sees somebody jumping in pool(like our society pool) he goes 'nai nai'(bathing)
Other times he takes water from him bottle ..puts it in his clothes and says 'geela geela'(wet)..
One thing which I found amazing he has learnt to say is 'Hawa'(air)...If we fan him with paper or if breeze is blowing he says 'hawa' which I think is the most coolest and one of the difficult thing he has learnt to reconize so far ..
He has beginning to join some two words together and use verbs/abstract nouns as well .
whenever he wants something he just follows us everywhere which his one hand outstreched over the other and he keeps on saying 'de do ,de do'(give it) or 'le lo,le lo'(take it), till we actually give that thing to him...yest we went to temple and before we could take prasadam from purohit ..there he was his tiny tiny hands outstretched to get the prasad.
We have started his potty training ...so far nothing much is happening apart from his truely original way of doing 'shu-shu'
He refuses to sit on his potty seat ..so we actually take him in our hands and in sink he does it ...
And this is the complete procedure he follows..
1.We hold him and bring him to position before the sink.
2.he starts 'eiight eiight' (light light)..so we switch on the sink lights.
3. Then comes 'water water ' (We dutifully turn on the water)
4.'Pav tho' ..pav dho'(clean the feet) we wash one feet ..and he goes off 'dusaa' 'dusaa'(second one )
5.and followed by recently added 'haatdo' 'haatdo' ..and we clean the hands ..
6.Thankfully the times arrives for the real deal and 2/10 it results in success rest of the times it goes back again to lots of step 5/step 6 only to realize we are being duped.
Monday, June 7, 2010
babu..chai shai ..gaye
That's what Akku says almost daily ..
His grandpa-grandmother have gone back to their hometown for a month.And he keeps remembering his grandpa a lot.He is more of a friend to him than his 'dadu' or 'ba' as he calls him.Offcourse anybody who jumps from bed for you,sits on kitchen slabs,touches ceiling fans,hides in cupboards ,takes you out to play/outing in his godi for almost an hour,teaches new tricks to be naughty can only be ur friend
Off lately Akku has been showing lots of 'attitude' to him,seeing him but still ignoring him,not going so much to him..but its been almost 2 weeks he has been gone but still he keeps asking for him...and its not just randomly he says 'babu' ..its remembering the things he used to do for him or seeing his photo.
* if we sing a song or rhyme which his 'babu' used to sing, he starts saying 'babu chai shai gaye'..
*After bath his babu used wrap him in towel and keep him in his hands and jump saying 'tick tica tick tick" .So now sometimes we wrap him towel he keeps saying 'babu'.
*For my parents we put Akku's first birthday CD .In it, his grandpa was playing and dancing with him.Akku didn't recognize himself and got really irritated seeing his 'babu' playing with some other kid.And he kept on saying 'babu babu' in angry way.
*Yesterday Akshaj was going through newspaper and suddenly he started saying 'babu babu'.We were quite puzzled and when we saw the paper all those photos were actually of Yeddyurappa, CM of Karnataka (he has gray rather white hair and mustaches as his grandpa wears)
Are u wondering what is this 'chai shai' ??
Akku has a karadi rhyme CD in which a rhyme starts from 'chai chai ..train at the station ready to go' and it has train in it..with chai wala and all...and since Akku also came to see off his grandparents at station ..he got it figured out by himself that his dadu has left on a 'chai shai'...
He slept off when we came from station and when we reached home ..he woke and started searching for him everywhere and finally said 'gaye' and when we asked him 'kaun gaye' he replied 'babu ..chai shaye.. gaye'
P.S: Something about Akku's grandfather :
Before he was a granddad,whenever he used to see other granddad's going crazy over thier 'nati-potas' he used to make fun of them and would say(his very infamous quote now): "Apne baccho se to sabhi pyaar karte hain par apne baccho ke baccho se kya pyaar karna.Main to nahi karunga".(Everybody loves thier own childern but I cannot understand why they love their grandchildren so much.I will not be like them" Now he just happily eats his words and is super crazy about Akku.
His grandpa-grandmother have gone back to their hometown for a month.And he keeps remembering his grandpa a lot.He is more of a friend to him than his 'dadu' or 'ba' as he calls him.Offcourse anybody who jumps from bed for you,sits on kitchen slabs,touches ceiling fans,hides in cupboards ,takes you out to play/outing in his godi for almost an hour,teaches new tricks to be naughty can only be ur friend
Off lately Akku has been showing lots of 'attitude' to him,seeing him but still ignoring him,not going so much to him..but its been almost 2 weeks he has been gone but still he keeps asking for him...and its not just randomly he says 'babu' ..its remembering the things he used to do for him or seeing his photo.
* if we sing a song or rhyme which his 'babu' used to sing, he starts saying 'babu chai shai gaye'..
*After bath his babu used wrap him in towel and keep him in his hands and jump saying 'tick tica tick tick" .So now sometimes we wrap him towel he keeps saying 'babu'.
*For my parents we put Akku's first birthday CD .In it, his grandpa was playing and dancing with him.Akku didn't recognize himself and got really irritated seeing his 'babu' playing with some other kid.And he kept on saying 'babu babu' in angry way.
*Yesterday Akshaj was going through newspaper and suddenly he started saying 'babu babu'.We were quite puzzled and when we saw the paper all those photos were actually of Yeddyurappa, CM of Karnataka (he has gray rather white hair and mustaches as his grandpa wears)
Are u wondering what is this 'chai shai' ??
Akku has a karadi rhyme CD in which a rhyme starts from 'chai chai ..train at the station ready to go' and it has train in it..with chai wala and all...and since Akku also came to see off his grandparents at station ..he got it figured out by himself that his dadu has left on a 'chai shai'...
He slept off when we came from station and when we reached home ..he woke and started searching for him everywhere and finally said 'gaye' and when we asked him 'kaun gaye' he replied 'babu ..chai shaye.. gaye'
P.S: Something about Akku's grandfather :
Before he was a granddad,whenever he used to see other granddad's going crazy over thier 'nati-potas' he used to make fun of them and would say(his very infamous quote now): "Apne baccho se to sabhi pyaar karte hain par apne baccho ke baccho se kya pyaar karna.Main to nahi karunga".(Everybody loves thier own childern but I cannot understand why they love their grandchildren so much.I will not be like them" Now he just happily eats his words and is super crazy about Akku.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Daily Dose 6
Some great news finally ..Akshaj has started to speak ..yeah..
Speech Therapy really worked ..her therapist was full of praise for him ..that he has done very well and shown great progress :-)
And its not only the words which he learned there ..now he has started repeating words after us ..he has even gone ahead and started manipulating us already ..you ask how ??
Example one:
Premise :Puneet scolds Akki for something ..
Akki:goes to his granddad and says "papa mar" "papa mar"(papa ne mara ie papa hit him)
Example two:
Premise:Akki likes closing door and then asks somebody to open it for him.Yest when Akki,me and P were in a room,Akki went and closed the door on us and then asked his grandmom to open the door for him.After that, in total insult to her, he makes her go away and closes the door on her ,now again me ,P and Akki are in room with door closed)
Akki(after sometime to us) :Dadi ..band ..dadi band(ie complaining that Dadi (has against his wish) closed the door)
Example three:
Premise:Whenever Akki gets hurts and cries we give him glucose and he stops crying
Akki now cries his hearts out even if he does not get hurt also...and starts saying "gucose" "gucose" ..that is still ok ..that is totally understandable ..
but one day he got hurt (not that much) but he started crying anyway ..his grandparents thought to ignore him to see what he does ..but they were totally shocked to see that he actually hit his head hard against a wall just to grab their attention and get glucose ..and this he has already done twice ..
and you say kids are innocent !!
But offcourse there are some good things he has learnt as well :-)
now he has started filling in some of the rhyms which I sing to him..
like if :
Me:Old Mcdonald had a farm
Akki:eia eia o..
or if I ask him to sing a poem
Akki: ro ro ro (row row row ur boat)
and he keeps repeating 'chai chai" (kadagi rhyms) thorughout the day ..
he sure is going to love tea by the way he eyes lit up when we drink tea
When I leave for office before he wakes up ,he wakes up crying and keeps saying "mama gaye " to everyone in house ..
he can now recognise and say his main body parts like :eye,nose,ears,hands,stomach,lips,teeth,tongue,chin
his dadu has already started teaching him ..staring with hindi letter 'a' 'aa' 'e'..
when he draws anar,aam and imli or says 'a' for like that akki is able to currectly recogonise and speak them..
and Akki loves when we draw "tar"(star) or "channa"(chanda) for him...once he was saying "tar tar" I just could't get what he was saying ..then he got very irritated and made star action by hand as if to say how dumb can mummy get !!
Some of the words he can say are (maybe I will repeat above ones also as his therapist asks how many words he speaks now sometimes ..and we both are just blank at that time)
1.Mama
2.Papa
3.Ba
4.Dadi
5.Purse
6.ba ba
7.chai
8.toy
9.on
10.close
11.am(for om)
12.aam
13.keyya(for kela)
15.apple
16.anuur(for anguur)
17.gaye
18 gir gaye(most used)
19.cd
20 tar(star)
21.channa(chanda)..sometimes moon
22.fan
23.ei-ite(light)
24. car
25. auto
26 bus
27. bubu (bubble)
28. juice
29. pani/mum-mum
30.kauva(crow)
31.chidi
32.chin
33. Bua
34. Nani
35. yello (hello)
36. dudu (milk)
37. Kaun aaya (who is at the door)
38. phone
39. potty ...(not to inform, after wards only when u say )
40 Anaan (anar)
41. Bat
42. Ball
Speech Therapy really worked ..her therapist was full of praise for him ..that he has done very well and shown great progress :-)
And its not only the words which he learned there ..now he has started repeating words after us ..he has even gone ahead and started manipulating us already ..you ask how ??
Example one:
Premise :Puneet scolds Akki for something ..
Akki:goes to his granddad and says "papa mar" "papa mar"(papa ne mara ie papa hit him)
Example two:
Premise:Akki likes closing door and then asks somebody to open it for him.Yest when Akki,me and P were in a room,Akki went and closed the door on us and then asked his grandmom to open the door for him.After that, in total insult to her, he makes her go away and closes the door on her ,now again me ,P and Akki are in room with door closed)
Akki(after sometime to us) :Dadi ..band ..dadi band(ie complaining that Dadi (has against his wish) closed the door)
Example three:
Premise:Whenever Akki gets hurts and cries we give him glucose and he stops crying
Akki now cries his hearts out even if he does not get hurt also...and starts saying "gucose" "gucose" ..that is still ok ..that is totally understandable ..
but one day he got hurt (not that much) but he started crying anyway ..his grandparents thought to ignore him to see what he does ..but they were totally shocked to see that he actually hit his head hard against a wall just to grab their attention and get glucose ..and this he has already done twice ..
and you say kids are innocent !!
But offcourse there are some good things he has learnt as well :-)
now he has started filling in some of the rhyms which I sing to him..
like if :
Me:Old Mcdonald had a farm
Akki:eia eia o..
or if I ask him to sing a poem
Akki: ro ro ro (row row row ur boat)
and he keeps repeating 'chai chai" (kadagi rhyms) thorughout the day ..
he sure is going to love tea by the way he eyes lit up when we drink tea
When I leave for office before he wakes up ,he wakes up crying and keeps saying "mama gaye " to everyone in house ..
he can now recognise and say his main body parts like :eye,nose,ears,hands,stomach,lips,teeth,tongue,chin
his dadu has already started teaching him ..staring with hindi letter 'a' 'aa' 'e'..
when he draws anar,aam and imli or says 'a' for like that akki is able to currectly recogonise and speak them..
and Akki loves when we draw "tar"(star) or "channa"(chanda) for him...once he was saying "tar tar" I just could't get what he was saying ..then he got very irritated and made star action by hand as if to say how dumb can mummy get !!
Some of the words he can say are (maybe I will repeat above ones also as his therapist asks how many words he speaks now sometimes ..and we both are just blank at that time)
1.Mama
2.Papa
3.Ba
4.Dadi
5.Purse
6.ba ba
7.chai
8.toy
9.on
10.close
11.am(for om)
12.aam
13.keyya(for kela)
15.apple
16.anuur(for anguur)
17.gaye
18 gir gaye(most used)
19.cd
20 tar(star)
21.channa(chanda)..sometimes moon
22.fan
23.ei-ite(light)
24. car
25. auto
26 bus
27. bubu (bubble)
28. juice
29. pani/mum-mum
30.kauva(crow)
31.chidi
32.chin
33. Bua
34. Nani
35. yello (hello)
36. dudu (milk)
37. Kaun aaya (who is at the door)
38. phone
39. potty ...(not to inform, after wards only when u say )
40 Anaan (anar)
41. Bat
42. Ball
Monday, May 10, 2010
Missing ...Anybody seen Akshaj Joshi ,age 21 months (1 bonus included)
Yeah ..it happened on Friday ...Akku disappeared for 5 minutes ..
Puneet and I were in our offices..
Akku's dadu was playing with him in our corridor(we live in 3rd floor)..Akku had 2 footballs and one bat in his hand ..so his dadu thought to keep one ball inside the house as it was hindering Akku in playing properly because he was trying to hold both the balls and bat together..it would have been just 2 sec and when he came out ,corridor was empty ..
This off course led to a mad panic for my in-laws....both of them searching for him desperately only to find him happily playing bat -ball at ground floor with our building's security and admin people...
And this is what happened( as per the events constructed later)..
Exactly when Akku's dadu went inside, at the same time one of our neighbour came from the lift..she opened the lift(lift is in our corridor) and came out and Akku went inside ..by the time his dadu came out somebody pressed the lift from down so Akku reached ground floor(with bat-football)..his dadu did see that lady enter her house(she could have told him that Akku went in the lift she surely must have seen ..but she didn't)..anyway then both his grandma-grandpa went searching for him and came to g-floor and there was he ,happily playing ..
And yest night he fell from the bed sleeping ..he sleeps between us but still he fell down ..
So the fear of raising him hail and hearty is becoming more and more panicky day by day ..
Thank God he is Ok ...but there are so many 'what ifs' that still linger on ..
Puneet and I were in our offices..
Akku's dadu was playing with him in our corridor(we live in 3rd floor)..Akku had 2 footballs and one bat in his hand ..so his dadu thought to keep one ball inside the house as it was hindering Akku in playing properly because he was trying to hold both the balls and bat together..it would have been just 2 sec and when he came out ,corridor was empty ..
This off course led to a mad panic for my in-laws....both of them searching for him desperately only to find him happily playing bat -ball at ground floor with our building's security and admin people...
And this is what happened( as per the events constructed later)..
Exactly when Akku's dadu went inside, at the same time one of our neighbour came from the lift..she opened the lift(lift is in our corridor) and came out and Akku went inside ..by the time his dadu came out somebody pressed the lift from down so Akku reached ground floor(with bat-football)..his dadu did see that lady enter her house(she could have told him that Akku went in the lift she surely must have seen ..but she didn't)..anyway then both his grandma-grandpa went searching for him and came to g-floor and there was he ,happily playing ..
And yest night he fell from the bed sleeping ..he sleeps between us but still he fell down ..
So the fear of raising him hail and hearty is becoming more and more panicky day by day ..
Thank God he is Ok ...but there are so many 'what ifs' that still linger on ..
Monday, May 3, 2010
Awards
Got a cute award from Swaram..(Sorry I always write ur name as Swarnam as that is the name of my friend/co-worker who was in my project earlier.And that name has just stuck with me.I get a 'gentle reminder' from Puneet everytime I do this..)
Now for the rules:
1.Thank the person that gave this to you
Thanks Swaram ,its just amazing how you always find time to reply promptly to blogs.
2. Copy the award and put it on your blog.
3. List 3 things you love about yourself
This is very tough for me..ok let me try
1.I love the fact that I am very calm person.So basically I do not freak out or fight very often.
2.I am a very low-maintainence girl .Just buy me some suits and books and I am happy.As I tell Puneet often how lucky he is to be married to me (off course he says vice-versa)
3. I generally do not lie.In school I was the one who used to ask teachers to cut my marks as they have done wrong calculation while copy correction or entered wrong marks in report card.I have seen that look on my classmates suggesting 'how weird can anybody get'.I have improved since then but if you ask a point blank question its tough for me to lie(apart from where I am actually making somebody's fool for fun)
4. Post a picture you love (e.g a person you adore etc.)
This is a no-brainer for me..two men who have changed my life 100%..
I was watching 'Jab we met' this weekend as making a rip of one of the dialogues I will say ..
I married one and got another one for free ,free ,free !!
Now for the rules:
1.Thank the person that gave this to you
Thanks Swaram ,its just amazing how you always find time to reply promptly to blogs.
2. Copy the award and put it on your blog.
3. List 3 things you love about yourself
This is very tough for me..ok let me try
1.I love the fact that I am very calm person.So basically I do not freak out or fight very often.
2.I am a very low-maintainence girl .Just buy me some suits and books and I am happy.As I tell Puneet often how lucky he is to be married to me (off course he says vice-versa)
3. I generally do not lie.In school I was the one who used to ask teachers to cut my marks as they have done wrong calculation while copy correction or entered wrong marks in report card.I have seen that look on my classmates suggesting 'how weird can anybody get'.I have improved since then but if you ask a point blank question its tough for me to lie(apart from where I am actually making somebody's fool for fun)
4. Post a picture you love (e.g a person you adore etc.)
This is a no-brainer for me..two men who have changed my life 100%..
I was watching 'Jab we met' this weekend as making a rip of one of the dialogues I will say ..
I married one and got another one for free ,free ,free !!
Monday, April 19, 2010
A Birthday and a cake !!
It was my birthday yesterday...and I decided to make the birthday cake myself...and after incredible amount of net surfing (mainly blog surfing) ...I finally decided what I wanted for my birthday --a chocolate ganache cake.I have made cakes some 2-3 times earlier but every time I made those in exceptional hurry and when I make it(in 1 hr) and in half hour it is cut also ...But this time I wanted to make it more properly ..so decided to start a little early.More than ingredients what was very important was that Akshaj should not be in the house (and I could do without P too).So P, Akki and his dadu were ordered out of the house and I have next 2-2.5 hours for my cake. And this is how cake finally turned out ...
After baking the cake I made home made marzipan (for animals) and piping gel for writing on the cake.I could only find 3 food colors in Bangalore and so I made bear/cat/bird/duck and some grass with them.P was already smuggling my marzipan paste behind my back and shamefully telling me how good it tastes.(I told u I wanted him to be not in the house)
Like father like son,Akshaj was also busy licking away the cake with his figure(right bottom)while we were clicking traditional birthday snaps ..
Everybody loved the cake ..but was was best of it all that Akshaj was actually kissing instead of eating the bird/duck/bear/cat I made...
Just a perfect birthday gift !!
P.S The writing on the cake was done by P as he thought it does not feel right if I write my happy Birthday myself :-) (thank god for him..I would have messed up the writing completely)
After baking the cake I made home made marzipan (for animals) and piping gel for writing on the cake.I could only find 3 food colors in Bangalore and so I made bear/cat/bird/duck and some grass with them.P was already smuggling my marzipan paste behind my back and shamefully telling me how good it tastes.(I told u I wanted him to be not in the house)
Like father like son,Akshaj was also busy licking away the cake with his figure(right bottom)while we were clicking traditional birthday snaps ..
Everybody loved the cake ..but was was best of it all that Akshaj was actually kissing instead of eating the bird/duck/bear/cat I made...
Just a perfect birthday gift !!
P.S The writing on the cake was done by P as he thought it does not feel right if I write my happy Birthday myself :-) (thank god for him..I would have messed up the writing completely)
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Speech Therapy
That's what Akshaj is going to these days
Since he was premature he went to some mandatory tests after his one year. Like going to a child development expert.P and and I didn't like the expert one bit.For one she looked so bored that we couldn't understand how she became a child development expert.She was continuously yawning and kept talking to her maid to what to cook for dinner while we waited for her..Anyway ,she had a questionnaire with her by which she gauged Akshaj's development .And according to her results he was a little behind in speech department, rest everything was OK.She asked us to do a BERA test(this test is done to check child's hearing) and come back with the report so that she will do one more test with him.In that she would have given him some toys and seen his reaction and then would have come out with the report.But as we didn't like her much we did the BERA test and went to Akshaj's pediatrician.He suggested to go to a speech therapy as there was nothing wrong with Akshaj ears so he should have started speaking by now.
So after thinking about it we did went to Speech therapist.She asked us random questions about how he is doing,how much he is speaking,kind of sounds he make etc.What was so good about her that whatever she said about Akshaj was actually quite true and made sense.We have heard from many parents that their kids started speaking after they turned 2.We asked her the same thing and she said that its possible that he will start speaking but otherwise might also be true.And if delayed it might be more difficult for him to speak.One thing which she said and its so totally true in his case was the fact that he is a very active kid.He has very waving attention span and like to move on from one activity to other.Since all the time he is so involved in doing something that he does not even listen what we are saying.And if he is not listing anything how will he learn !!
Its been a month already for him..we go twice a week 45 min session.We are still very mixed on if he is progressing or not.
But Akshaj is having a ball..all he has to do is to play with toys and fight with his trainer.For eg :For anything Akshaj wants us to open he will come and say 'on' (picked up when we say to switch 'on' the fan).That's just stuck with him.So its quite sight to see 2 of them fighting when she asks him to say 'Open' something but inturn he says 'on'..So they literally go like 'on'-'open'-'on'-'open' when finally she has to give in and 'on' a box..
Yeah that's my brat for sure !!
Since he was premature he went to some mandatory tests after his one year. Like going to a child development expert.P and and I didn't like the expert one bit.For one she looked so bored that we couldn't understand how she became a child development expert.She was continuously yawning and kept talking to her maid to what to cook for dinner while we waited for her..Anyway ,she had a questionnaire with her by which she gauged Akshaj's development .And according to her results he was a little behind in speech department, rest everything was OK.She asked us to do a BERA test(this test is done to check child's hearing) and come back with the report so that she will do one more test with him.In that she would have given him some toys and seen his reaction and then would have come out with the report.But as we didn't like her much we did the BERA test and went to Akshaj's pediatrician.He suggested to go to a speech therapy as there was nothing wrong with Akshaj ears so he should have started speaking by now.
So after thinking about it we did went to Speech therapist.She asked us random questions about how he is doing,how much he is speaking,kind of sounds he make etc.What was so good about her that whatever she said about Akshaj was actually quite true and made sense.We have heard from many parents that their kids started speaking after they turned 2.We asked her the same thing and she said that its possible that he will start speaking but otherwise might also be true.And if delayed it might be more difficult for him to speak.One thing which she said and its so totally true in his case was the fact that he is a very active kid.He has very waving attention span and like to move on from one activity to other.Since all the time he is so involved in doing something that he does not even listen what we are saying.And if he is not listing anything how will he learn !!
Its been a month already for him..we go twice a week 45 min session.We are still very mixed on if he is progressing or not.
But Akshaj is having a ball..all he has to do is to play with toys and fight with his trainer.For eg :For anything Akshaj wants us to open he will come and say 'on' (picked up when we say to switch 'on' the fan).That's just stuck with him.So its quite sight to see 2 of them fighting when she asks him to say 'Open' something but inturn he says 'on'..So they literally go like 'on'-'open'-'on'-'open' when finally she has to give in and 'on' a box..
Yeah that's my brat for sure !!
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Aaaahhh...
Beware...that you will be subjected to a Aaaahhh treatment...
Well everybody in the house is little upset with Akshaj because of this word(the kind of consistent usage defiantly makes it a word in our dictionary)...
This he says when we go near him and he does not want us to come to near him ...like when I am in a too much hurry and ask his grandpa/grandmom to take him ,he is playing with keyboard/mouse and we come even close to him etc etc ..then will come a big AAAAHHH...followed by a big Indian 'No' with face going left and right with considerable speed..It does not matter if we actually were going to him...his senses are too strong and he tries to decipher our movements before we even make them
He does not scream or shout just says it as a word in a most expressive face suggesting you are not welcome..
Everybody agrees this is the most insulting form of 'No' they have ever encountered..
Offcouse this follows a emotional drama where everybody starts telling how much they are doing for him and in return we get this ...
Seeing him,I actually feel real guilty for the times I saw any unruly child and thought why parents are not able to handle their child ..God help me now !!
Well everybody in the house is little upset with Akshaj because of this word(the kind of consistent usage defiantly makes it a word in our dictionary)...
This he says when we go near him and he does not want us to come to near him ...like when I am in a too much hurry and ask his grandpa/grandmom to take him ,he is playing with keyboard/mouse and we come even close to him etc etc ..then will come a big AAAAHHH...followed by a big Indian 'No' with face going left and right with considerable speed..It does not matter if we actually were going to him...his senses are too strong and he tries to decipher our movements before we even make them
He does not scream or shout just says it as a word in a most expressive face suggesting you are not welcome..
Everybody agrees this is the most insulting form of 'No' they have ever encountered..
Offcouse this follows a emotional drama where everybody starts telling how much they are doing for him and in return we get this ...
Seeing him,I actually feel real guilty for the times I saw any unruly child and thought why parents are not able to handle their child ..God help me now !!
Monday, March 22, 2010
I have been nominated !!
I am quite surprised actually !!I never thought I would be nominated for it.I went to Avante Blog Awards site to vote for Monika for the categories she has been nominated to.Then I thought I will check out who is nominated in other categories as well(vote for the ones I know) ..And look and behold ..there was my post too ...Then I remembered P telling me sometime back he has nominated my post for something ..well he actually is one who coxed me in starting this blog..and is more into the bog world than me ..
I know generally who read about Akshaj are mostly family who just check his photos and what he has been up to ..but if anybody reads this go ahead and make my day ..vote for Akshaj(as this post is pseudo written by him)
http://avantgardebloggies.wordpress.com/2010/03/21/most-evocative-post-on-parenting/
I know generally who read about Akshaj are mostly family who just check his photos and what he has been up to ..but if anybody reads this go ahead and make my day ..vote for Akshaj(as this post is pseudo written by him)
http://avantgardebloggies.wordpress.com/2010/03/21/most-evocative-post-on-parenting/
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Tiger==dinosour ??
I have been seeing the "Save Tiger" campaign in TV for a while now.Its pretty disturbing to know only 1411 tigers left.What's the saddest part in find is that tiger is even not eaten by us..it is just for the sickening pleasure(directly/indirectly)that anybody kills tiger.
I still remember after Jurassic Park movie from school we had all gone to Delhi museum and seen those big T-Rex's which had been used in Jurassic Park movie.I am wondering will Akshaj will also go to some museum to see tigers rather than some zoo/sanctuary.Will he see the majestic beauty of Tiger only in some TV/photos ?
Will rather than seeing Dharmendra fighting a tiger we will see some X hero fighting a dummy tiger instead(that's another story that we do not have heroes like Dharmendra to fight with tiger now !!)
Edited to add:Some useful link how and why we should save tigers:
http://www.panda.org/what_we_do/endangered_species/tigers/?gclid=CIiz9deioaACFcZS6wodpwiAaA
http://www.wwfindia.org/help/donate/
I still remember after Jurassic Park movie from school we had all gone to Delhi museum and seen those big T-Rex's which had been used in Jurassic Park movie.I am wondering will Akshaj will also go to some museum to see tigers rather than some zoo/sanctuary.Will he see the majestic beauty of Tiger only in some TV/photos ?
Will rather than seeing Dharmendra fighting a tiger we will see some X hero fighting a dummy tiger instead(that's another story that we do not have heroes like Dharmendra to fight with tiger now !!)
Edited to add:Some useful link how and why we should save tigers:
http://www.panda.org/what_we_do/endangered_species/tigers/?gclid=CIiz9deioaACFcZS6wodpwiAaA
http://www.wwfindia.org/help/donate/
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Happy 1.5 year day !!
That is more so because we will always get a chance to be at home for his half b'days as it falls on Republic day .
We did not do anything special on the day just chilled out and let him do all the show off (he loves being centre of attention..pakka leo I must say)he wanted to do
This year is going on with a mixture of worries and total fun..
Still he is not talking much ..just says ma ,ba(for grandfather) and ija (grandma)..he can't speak papa but he has come up with a ingenious name for Puneet ie -'Am'(for Om) ..and that has not come from Ekta Kapoor's serial ..That is because he hears daily Puneet chanting 'Om' while doing pooja hence that word is attached to him...
And this also is the best thing Akshaj has learnt till now...daily he does pooja with Punnet ;he completely apes Puneet with saying 'Om' with him ,doing 'analom vilom' ,'pranam' full head down like this
And these are total fun times ...he is in his playful best ...he is a total drama king ..we has to have our attention for everything he is doing ...his interest in dancing is still going strong ..he will start dancing the moment we say 'dance' (even without music)and then everybody has to sing together otherwise he will keep on scolding the one who is not involved...his favorite song currently is 'Love me Love me' from Wanted ..he even sings 'lome lome' sometimes ..
He is understanding all daily chores like 'brush','shoes','going out' ,But best is 'food' whenever I get his 'plate' ready I just have to show him saying food ...he will ran and sit on the mat(I normally feed him with a paper over normal 'chatai') and he even tries to put on bib before he begins eating .He dips chapati in 'daal' before eating it .Only problem with this is he has a clock time for eating his food..his food should be over till his 'daal' in the bowl is empty ..even if there is chapati or something else is remaining before his bowl is empty then he will just not eat it anymore...he will remove the bib and walk away ..so its a constant challenge to make him eat little slowly ...
He is becoming more assertive day by day ..he is mostly able to explain what he wants from us ..he has starting saying 'no' with his hands ..he doesn't even let us near him if he doesn't want ..he just waves like 'no' and shouts at us ..
And that is precisely one of the major problem ...he has become very very stubborn ..with each 'no' to him turning into shouting ,crying uncontrollably(mind u no tears come at this time),hand and leg banging.And we just have no clue what to do about it ...lets hope its just a phase.
He has starting being productive already..he helps in putting up clothes for drying ..and also passes things around from one person to other or one room to other.If he has something which he doesn't want to give like he has got hold of mobile and doesn't want to give back and we ask him to give it to us he will just come and pat his hand in ours or give some other toy instead of mobile ..
And he definitely has mind of his own ..he will keep on waving 'bye' and giving 'flying kiss' to everybody and the time he is going out ..but the moment anybody of us is going out leaving him or somebody whom he doesn't want to do he just refuses to say 'bye' ..that is still ok that's what are kids known for right !!But he keeps on kissing all the animals ,babies in his book but if we say give 'mama' a 'kisse' he will never do ..and to test if he clearly understands what we are saying next sentence will be 'give baby a kisse' and off he goes to give kisse to the baby in the book...now that is little too ruthless !!
Some moments so far :
this garland was made for Akshaj for one of our local festival (this is actually fed to crows)
stacking all blocks one above the other has given way to new ideas
Too much of naughtiness ..
This scooter is mostly used as a stool
We did not do anything special on the day just chilled out and let him do all the show off (he loves being centre of attention..pakka leo I must say)he wanted to do
This year is going on with a mixture of worries and total fun..
Still he is not talking much ..just says ma ,ba(for grandfather) and ija (grandma)..he can't speak papa but he has come up with a ingenious name for Puneet ie -'Am'(for Om) ..and that has not come from Ekta Kapoor's serial ..That is because he hears daily Puneet chanting 'Om' while doing pooja hence that word is attached to him...
And this also is the best thing Akshaj has learnt till now...daily he does pooja with Punnet ;he completely apes Puneet with saying 'Om' with him ,doing 'analom vilom' ,'pranam' full head down like this
And these are total fun times ...he is in his playful best ...he is a total drama king ..we has to have our attention for everything he is doing ...his interest in dancing is still going strong ..he will start dancing the moment we say 'dance' (even without music)and then everybody has to sing together otherwise he will keep on scolding the one who is not involved...his favorite song currently is 'Love me Love me' from Wanted ..he even sings 'lome lome' sometimes ..
He is understanding all daily chores like 'brush','shoes','going out' ,But best is 'food' whenever I get his 'plate' ready I just have to show him saying food ...he will ran and sit on the mat(I normally feed him with a paper over normal 'chatai') and he even tries to put on bib before he begins eating .He dips chapati in 'daal' before eating it .Only problem with this is he has a clock time for eating his food..his food should be over till his 'daal' in the bowl is empty ..even if there is chapati or something else is remaining before his bowl is empty then he will just not eat it anymore...he will remove the bib and walk away ..so its a constant challenge to make him eat little slowly ...
He is becoming more assertive day by day ..he is mostly able to explain what he wants from us ..he has starting saying 'no' with his hands ..he doesn't even let us near him if he doesn't want ..he just waves like 'no' and shouts at us ..
And that is precisely one of the major problem ...he has become very very stubborn ..with each 'no' to him turning into shouting ,crying uncontrollably(mind u no tears come at this time),hand and leg banging.And we just have no clue what to do about it ...lets hope its just a phase.
He has starting being productive already..he helps in putting up clothes for drying ..and also passes things around from one person to other or one room to other.If he has something which he doesn't want to give like he has got hold of mobile and doesn't want to give back and we ask him to give it to us he will just come and pat his hand in ours or give some other toy instead of mobile ..
And he definitely has mind of his own ..he will keep on waving 'bye' and giving 'flying kiss' to everybody and the time he is going out ..but the moment anybody of us is going out leaving him or somebody whom he doesn't want to do he just refuses to say 'bye' ..that is still ok that's what are kids known for right !!But he keeps on kissing all the animals ,babies in his book but if we say give 'mama' a 'kisse' he will never do ..and to test if he clearly understands what we are saying next sentence will be 'give baby a kisse' and off he goes to give kisse to the baby in the book...now that is little too ruthless !!
Some moments so far :
this garland was made for Akshaj for one of our local festival (this is actually fed to crows)
stacking all blocks one above the other has given way to new ideas
Too much of naughtiness ..
This scooter is mostly used as a stool
Friday, January 22, 2010
spects--so soon !!
Since Akshaj was born premature ,we had to get some mandatory tests done for him when he completes one year ...after lots of cancelling reappointment we finally went for an ROP check up.In this they check the well being of eyes.
At first eye test was done...followed by doctor check up and it turned out Akshaj has already a power of -1.But since he is very small this needs to be followed up when he turns 2.If at time also if the power is there he will get his first spects ...At 2 !!
The root cause is because he was premature and preme babies tend to have little weak eyes
Since then all of us in the family are little sad...since I have power and Akshaj I always doubted that he will end up wearing them ...since it tends to be hereditary but at such a young age I never knew...
He has such wonderful eyes it will be such a shame if he ends up wearing them..
But them looking at the brighter side as doc said wearing spects is not a problem and if left just like that there are chances that a squint may develop apart from the fact that power will then increase much more ..
At first eye test was done...followed by doctor check up and it turned out Akshaj has already a power of -1.But since he is very small this needs to be followed up when he turns 2.If at time also if the power is there he will get his first spects ...At 2 !!
The root cause is because he was premature and preme babies tend to have little weak eyes
Since then all of us in the family are little sad...since I have power and Akshaj I always doubted that he will end up wearing them ...since it tends to be hereditary but at such a young age I never knew...
He has such wonderful eyes it will be such a shame if he ends up wearing them..
But them looking at the brighter side as doc said wearing spects is not a problem and if left just like that there are chances that a squint may develop apart from the fact that power will then increase much more ..
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Shimoga Trip
For this new Year we went to Shimoga which was recommended by many of my friends...
Shimoga is famous for 'Jog Falls' that is the highest waterfalls of India.
First day we landed there we went to see TungaBhadra dam followed by boating ....
First day we landed there we went to see TungaBhadra dam followed by boating ....
The dam is really very big and there is some construction going on with new passage with lights on both sides.Once that completes it will be a sight to see in night..On our way back we found one place which had statues of shiva,hanuman ,gandhiji ,horse and some other ..it was already dark by the time we reach there so we could not actually figure out what the place was..but the statues were beautiful ..
2nd day we first went to Tiger safari...While we were waiting for the van , Akki had a blast running here and there and we had a hard time controlling him.
The safari was good..we saw tigers,lions,deers,blackbucks....Akki saw one tiger and lots and lots of deers....as we were the only Hindi speaking people in the group the driver not only explained us everything specially in Hindi but once the tiger part ended and we were in the deer zone he asked Puneet to stand in the door itself to click snaps.Seeing his papa go away Akki started crying so then driver coxed me to give Akki with his papa ..so they both had a nice view from the door...
Next stop was the famous Jog falls which is about 100 kms from Shimoga....though it was out of season and much water was not there but still we could imagine what it would be like in its full force ..there are 2 entires of Jog falls one where you can see jog falls falling with its four different streams while from the other side you can watch its ferocity ..
In between Shimoga and Jog there is a place called Sagar which has lots of ancient temples ...we managed to see 2 of them.One of the most famous there is Ikkeri. Me and Akki got scolding there as Akki was always running away from me and standing on one pious spot after other and so we got nice scolding from the caretaker there ..
Day 3 was our return day...and we planned to explore Shimoga before heading back..What was really strange in our trip was that even though there are places to see in Shimoga itself..if you ask the locals about the places to see they will just tell you about Jog Falls..so take all the printouts(which we could not do in this trip) of the places you want to cover..Anyway thanks to google we came to know that Shimoga has India's second largest church and with lots of efforts and wrong directions we could still reach there ...
In Shimoga there are lots of beautiful temple we saw one or two enroute our return journey and thus ended our journey !!P.S :All the wrong dates are because our gadget freak had enabled the dates from somewhere and we did not have the time to see how to disable that.
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